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This week I meet with the CEO of First Tech Fund. I regret not making a video of my being lost in Manhattan walking around the place like 3 times and still do not know where it is. It was a sensational experience. We had a blast chatting about summer plans, college, Asian parents, food, immigrants, etc. Next time we are going to the office then I make a video. Hopefully, next time I don’t get lost. . .
Movie
Watched “The Bad Guys” at AMC Theater. It was a really fun and insightful story. I am not spoiling anything for y’all, but here are a couple of insights that I perceived:
Bad guys could be good. Good guys could be bad.
Being good is sacrificing your need to fulfill others’ needs. → I believe that doing good does not need to be a +/- situation. Both parties could win.
Honesty is the healer but also the hardest to express.
Self-fulfilling prophecy (stereotypes are dangerous): Snakes Birthday Hate
Food
The Brazilian Pao De Queijo:
Epiphanyđź’ˇ
Hackathons/ Challenge/ Moonshot or any of these high-pressure team projects are the processes when we should experience learning, not show off. At least for me, my mindset was that if I do not know something then I don’t do it, which is bs. When you don’t have the skills to do so that is the moment to FIO. I believe it is because the hackathons were too time pressing that I believed that someone who has a little more experience than me should take the job, which is again bs. At that moment if someone is an expert then they would take the role immediately. If nobody took the role, that means everyone is an amateur, so go learn your little piece of potato! 🥔
There is a difference between being authentic and stupidly seeking to make an impression. If you make an impression of who you are not, in the long term, not even you who you are. I had been so urged to impress everyone and stand out that I realized the intention wasn’t right. The purpose of speaking up is to provide value if you are just repeating what is being said already that is stupid. Go deeper and share your view on it. You forget to learn if your ultimate goal is to impress.
Headaches🤕
Opportunity Overload
There had never been this many chances to thrive. It is not only in the USA but all around the world. With this advantage, there is a caveat. How should we know what opportunities to take if we have billions of choices? I had been struggling a lot with this problem, contently applying to multiple summer programs and internships without knowing what to expect. This could lead to mental burnout and an illusion of accomplishment which could be fulfilling but now productive.
Here is what happened to me:
- My calendar got packed with events and activities that I do not really value and enjoy!
- I felt productive; however, there were no tangible results. There was no time left for projects that truly matter
- I felt burned out and mentally exhausted because of the guilt of not doing what is important but having a false sense of productivity!
The Past Juky
Recently, I had been organizing my Drive and I found one of my most reflective moments during my first year in the US living solo in a rented room in Queens. A pretty memorable episode of my life. At the time, my Englishy wasn’t really professional so please bear with me.
Last semester, I had a very difficult time with my homesickness. That is why I did not want to go home and be a bird inside a cage. I had the urge to chat with my parents at home and make a miserable face and voice to others. I already forgot that feeling, maybe because that was painful and unpleasant and our brain just deletes it. Thank God. That was the loneliest loneliness period of my life. But I know that it is just one obstacle to success.
You know, parents like to educate their children one billion times for the same problem even if you already learned it and stopped doing it wrongly. Once my family was going to “Guaratinguetá,” a famous city with the 2nd biggest church in the world. During the trip, my parents were “educating” me but in my perspective, they were cursing me. The whole trip was about it and I was trying to do not to listen by reading a book.
This was the essay for Nietzsche’s “Greatest Weight” and Bill Murray’s Groundhogs Day
In Juky Chen Wei Ling’s case, this protagonist chooses what he eats for dinner, and breakfast; what he wears; what he studies. The influence for many is imperceptible, but for sure the media, your parents and friends, the people around you, and others can be directly or indirectly transforming you. I particularly believe the theory that says every tiny decision changed in the past would completely the reality lived until now. These normal and common habits seem negligible and nondescript, however, the impact will just be significant in the long term and the differences will just be perceptible compared directly to another that does not do it.
In the movie “Bill Murray’s Groundhog’s Day,” the protagonist was sucked in his worst day ever, but over time he got experiences, and with smarter decisions, he changed his entire day into his best day.
People do not realize how their invisible choices can change global life. Maybe you think hyperbole domain my mind, but you need to agree with this real possibility.
Awareness🎗️
I had realized during my storytelling(conversation) with friends I tend to add elements to make the talk flow better or more interesting or less negative even though some facts are not true. For instance: Yesterday, I was hanging out with friends in Grand Central. I told them that I had never visited this place, which was true. Then I said that I almost got lost because it was a huge place(cough, cough, false). My Id criticized me: “That is not real… you are not being authentic. Such a phony, face potato!” While the superego generosity mentions: “You are being flexible and quick on your thinking to be present with your excitement!” Both could be right. Which of them is more dominant for you or this does not even happen?
